Categories
News Trending Viral Worldwide

Relationship expert shares her advice on how to ‘stop an argument in its tracks’

Arguments start to take off when one partner begins to get defensive. So, therapist Lauren Consul shared her relationship-saving tip to “stop an argument in its tracks” when one partner goes into self-preservation mode.

Lauren Consul is a couples and sex therapist who’s developed a following of nearly 160,000 people on TikTok and has received over 5.4 million likes. She is an infidelity expert and hosts retreats to help people “survive and thrive” after one partner has strayed.


“The next time you and your partner are talking, and your partner becomes defensive, I want you to do this: Pause, and say, ‘I want to understand what happened there. What did you hear me say?'” Consul says in her TikTok video with over 42,000 views.

“This question is key because it does one of two things,” she continued. “First, it can allow for clarification. A lot of times when we’ve become defensive, we’ve interpreted something our partner has said incorrectly. We’ve run it through a filter, we’ve told ourselves a story about it, it’s triggered something… So we’re not actually hearing what our partner says, and it allows for clarification.”

@laurenconsul

#communicationtools #communicationtools #defensiveness #couplesargument #learnontiktok #cyclebreaker #couplestherapist #relationshiptherapist #marriagecounseling #mytherapistsays #therapytol #tiktoktherapist

“The second thing: If your partner did interpret what you said correctly, it gives you an opportunity to slow things down and understand what is happening for them and address the underlying issue, rather than get caught in a spiral of defensiveness,” she continued.

Consul’s advice for stopping arguments before they explode is helpful because it clears up any potential misunderstandings. The key is to remember the tactic in the heat of the moment to prevent things from getting out of hand.

This article originally appeared on 3.16.23

Categories
News Trending Viral Worldwide

My family of 5 traveled the U.S. for nearly a year, and it cost us less than staying home

Whenever people share money-saving life hacks like living on a cruise ship or exploring the country via the #vanlife, I see comments like, “That might work for a single person or a couple, but what if you have kids?”

When our kids were 12, 8 and 4, we packed up all of our earthly belongings and spent a year living around the U.S. And no, we didn’t live in a van or RV. (Nothing wrong with that life, it just wasn’t for us.) We traveled from coast to coast, seeing and experiencing the vast array of gorgeous landscapes and fascinating sites America has to offer, and the best part is we did it for less than what we would have spent staying home.

Was it easy to plan and execute? Not exactly. But was it worth it? Absolutely, hands down, 100%.

Here’s how we did it and what we learned.


How the ‘nomadic life’ idea came about

We were renting a beautiful house in the Chicago suburbs when the owner decided she wanted to sell it. We couldn’t afford to buy it, so we had no choice but to move. My husband and I both worked from home and homeschooled our kids (pre-pandemic—that scenario is much more common now), so we were really free to live anywhere.

A friend of mine had been telling me about an extremely affordable house they’d rented in the Outer Banks in the fall while waiting for their permanent home to get finished. I had no idea tourist hot spots were so cheap off-peak, but once I started looking into it, I was gobsmacked.

Seriously, in major tourist areas like Cape Cod and Myrtle Beach, houses rent for upwards of 90% less than their peak summer prices from fall through spring. Owners don’t want their homes to sit empty and are willing to rent them for dirt cheap.

As I started researching more, I found that the nightly cost of most vacation rentals is a lot cheaper when you rent for an entire month (though not as cheap as those East Coast off-season rentals). And since vacation rentals generally include utilities, they are even cheaper when comparing them to regular housing costs.

So I posed the question: What if we moved out of our house and just…didn’t move into another house? What if, instead of paying rent or a mortgage, we put our stuff into storage, packed what we wanted to have with us in our car and rented vacation rentals a month or so at a time? We could work and school from anywhere. But could we really make that work?

I started sketching out scenarios and crunching numbers.

kids in car

How we worked it out financially

We were paying $1,800/month for rent for our house in the burbs, plus $200 to $300 dollars in utilities. That was the top of what we could afford, so we needed to keep monthly housing costs below that.

A storage unit for all of our furniture and belongings was just under $200/month. We figured that was a little less than what we paid monthly in utilities, so we’d just consider the storage unit cost as our utilities equivalent. That meant we needed to keep our vacation rental rent at $1,800/mo or below to keep our same cost of living.

What about gasoline costs, though? Driving around the country means a lot of gas money. And what about hotels and food?

Since we wouldn’t be living in one spot, we’d put a pause on the kids’ lessons and activities we normally would pay for (violin lessons, gymnastics, etc.). I figured what we saved in kids’ activities would certainly cover gas costs, especially if we were only making a long drive around once a month. (We also figured that what the kids learned from a year of travel would be just as valuable as whatever they’d be missing in regular activities, so weren’t worried about the disruption.)

girl with lorikeet, dolphin jumping

For overnight stops along the way, we’d try to plan routes that had people we knew and could stay a night with. Otherwise, we’d use Priceline for hotels. (If I were to do it again, I would use the points/miles travel hacking hobby I started last year for free hotel stays, but Priceline got us some good deals.)

We’d be living in fully-equipped homes, so we’d just cook like we normally do. We had a museum pass as homeschoolers that got us into all kinds of places around the country for free, and we’re really good at finding free or cheap things to do anyway. So as long as we kept the monthly rent at or below $1,800 on average for the year, we’d basically come out even money-wise.

map with route highlighted

How we planned where to go and what each place cost

We had a few “anchors” to guide our route as we planned. We had to leave when our lease was up at the end of April. We wanted to visit friends and family in California, we had a week-long family camp in Washington State in July, my husband had to be back in Chicago in August for a work thing, and we wanted to spend a chunk of the off-season on the East Coast. We worked backward from there.

We looked at rentals through Airbnb and VRBO and quickly found that everywhere is expensive in the summer. However, May is off-peak in Southern California (despite the gorgeous weather), and June is off-peak on the Oregon Coast (because of late school schedules and hit-or-miss weather), so we decided to start in California and make our way up the coast.

For May, we got a 2-bedroom condo right across the street from a beach in Dana Point, California, for $2,400.

For June, we rented a 3-bedroom house a block from the beach in Pacific Beach, Oregon, for $1,800.

mount rainier

By far, the most expensive place we stayed the whole trip was a not-terribly-impressive 2-bedroom condo in Seattle for three weeks in July (after our family camp) for $2,700. (Pretty much everywhere in the nation is ridiculously pricey in July. No getting around it.) So we were over our monthly budget to start off with, but that was okay because we knew we’d make it up the rest of the year.

In August, we stayed with my husband’s parents in Chicago, so we had one essentially rent-free month.

September took us to a large 4-bedroom home in a quaint little Lake Michigan beach town—South Haven, Michigan—which had the softest sand I’ve ever felt. Our rent there was $1,300.

cape cod house in the snow

October through January we stayed in Barnstable, Massachusetts—a beautiful Cape Cod town—in what was our best deal of the whole trip—a stunningly idyllic 2,000 sq ft, 4-bedroom, 2-bath home for $1,500 a month. (Again, utilities included.) This house rented for $3,500 a week during the summer. Seriously, the off-season on the East Coast is bonkers.

February took us to Orlando, Florida, where we stayed in a 3-bedroom condo minutes from the big theme parks for $1,200 for the month.

We used some actual vacation time and money we’d stashed away selling off items before putting our stuff into storage and lived it up at Disney World and Universal Orlando during this month. Because our housing was covered and we had our own car and we could bring our own food, all we had to pay for were the park tickets. And because we weren’t on a time crunch we could take advantage of far more days at the parks. (Park tickets get cheaper each day you add on, and become ridiculously cheap per person per day once you get past four or five days.) February is a perfect time to go to the parks if you wants pleasant temps and no crowds.

kids smiling

By March we were tired. We had decided before Florida to take a break from traveling and spend time my husband’s sister’s family who were visiting Chicago from overseas in March. That turned out to be a wise decision, as a family emergency arose the week we got back that necessitated us staying in Chicago for a few months. So we officially ended our nomadic travels two months shy of a year.

So how did we fare financially? Adding up all the rent we paid and dividing it by 10 months came to $1,540/month, well under budget. Even if we don’t count the month we stayed at my husband’s parents for free, we still came in under budget at just over $1,700/month.

car packed for a trip

What kinda sucked about our nomadic life

I’d say 95% of our nomadic experience was positive, and it actually went far more smoothly than I thought it might. But there were some downsides, of course.

For one, having to pack and unpack the car every month got a bit old. We each had our own bin of clothing and personal belongings, and we had a school bin and a kitchen bin. It worked well, but it was still a lot to manage.

The kids missed having their friends around, of course, and so did we. We managed to meet people almost everywhere we went, but it’s not the same as being with your own community of people. We missed having a home and a sense of steadiness. It was fabulous for a while, but not something we wanted to experience forever.

And as the person who did all the research and planning for our Big, Slow Trip Around the Country, there were times I wanted to pull my hair out trying to get it all timed out just right. I’m still not quite sure how I did it, to be honest, but it all worked out beautifully. I do know it took a lot of time and effort.

Totally worth it, though.

girl on beach at sunset

What was awesome about the nomadic life

First of all, the forced paring down of our belongings before putting stuff in storage was wonderful. We all have too much stuff, and having to decide what was worth paying to store was a useful exercise in and of itself.

As far as nomad life itself goes, the affordability of living/traveling in this way blew my mind. I would never have guessed we could slow travel for the same or less than the cost of staying home.

The kids had experiences we never would have been able to give them if we had tried to go all of these places just on vacations. We not only saw dozens of sunsets at the beach, but we saw firsthand the way the tides change throughout the month. We got to hike through incredible scenery at our own leisure, not trying to cram in as much as we could into a short vacation. We lived in small towns and big cities, enjoyed palm trees and pine trees and learned about all manner of wildlife.

And the learning! We studied colonial America and visited all the historical sites of the Revolutionary War during our stay in Massachusetts—a fascinating treat for my husband and I who were both born and raised on the West Coast. We stood on the North Bridge where “the shot heard round the world” was fired, which is the same bridge Henry David Thoreau and Louisa May Alcott would take boat rides under, which is within eyeshot of Ralph Waldo Emerson’s family home, which Nathaniel Hawthorne also live in for a while. History hits differently when you can see where it actually happened.

two kids on the oregon coast

We formed lifelong memories together as a family and met interesting people everywhere we went. While watching dolphins play in the surf at Dana Point, I connected with a mother who had lost her son in a surfing accident. On Cape Cod, I met a fellow homeschool mom whose husband worked as the caretaker for a very famous family’s private island, and we got to go spend a day there. We also got to stay the night with friends around the country while we made our way from one place to another, and friends and family came to visit us in almost every place we stayed as well, so we didn’t get too lonely.

It was also a surprisingly simple life, despite the complexities of planning it. We had what we could fit in our car and that was it. We didn’t have to worry about yard work or home maintenance or decorating or anything like that. We got to live in homes that had everything ready for us, so other than just basic laundry and cleaning up after ourselves, there wasn’t anything else to think about. We could just enjoy where we were while we were there.

But perhaps most importantly, we proved to ourselves and our kids that it’s okay to step outside of the norm, that life doesn’t have to look a certain way, and that with a little creativity, you can live a unique and extraordinary life if you want to, even if it’s just for a while.

Categories
News Trending Viral Worldwide

‘Recovering Doomscroller’ shares how he was able to break his news ‘addiction’ in revealing post

Keeping up with the 24-hour news cycle in real time can be overwhelming. It can lead to a negative cycle known as “doomscrolling,” or endlessly scrolling through negative news, usually without realizing the emotional impact it’s having.

Doomscrollers can get fixated on various topics, such as politics, crime, social justice, celebrity news, and even the personal lives of people they know on social media.

A Reddit user named Max wrote a revealing post about his doomscrolling habit on the Taoism subreddit. It explained how he got wrapped up in the vicious cycle, how it affected him on a biochemical level, and how he freed himself from the addiction. Taoism is a 1,900-year-old philosophy developed in China centered around balance, harmony with nature, simplicity and spontaneity.


Max started his post like he was speaking at an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting.

“I used to spend long nights refreshing the news sites. I’d open my browser looking for a hit of dopamine, something to be hopeful and happy about, but all the bad news only gave me a buzz of adrenaline (a survival hormone) and cortisol (a stress hormone.) But what’s worse, when the adrenaline and cortisol wore off, I’d go in and re-dose.

Not only can doomscrolling be addictive, but the fight or flight response also shuts down our thinking brain … so when doomscrolling sets off the fight or flight response, it also turns off a lot of our higher thinking and reasoning. It sends us panicking when we should be planning.

I told myself I was just staying informed. That’s how it started. But then I couldn’t look away. It’s like I had to know what was happening, y’know? ‘If I don’t check the news the world will burn.’ It got to the point where I was doomscrolling at work, and at family dinner, in my free time, and I started feeling distraught and depressed.”

Max’s description of the biochemical impacts of doomscrolling is backed up by science. “Information-seeking is a distinctly human trait, encouraged by neurochemical reactions. When our curiosity is piqued, the sense of discovery releases hits of dopamine in the brain, triggering the reward system, which in turn encourages us to explore a topic, knowledge, or question even further,” Jeffrey Davis writes in Psychology Today.

Susanne Babbel, a psychotherapist specializing in trauma recovery, told CNN that when we hear bad news, we go into “stress mode” and our bodies release “hormones like cortisol and adrenaline” that can put us in a fight-or-flight response.

Dr. Karin Gepp supports the claim that when we go into fight or flight mode, it deactivates “the part of your brain responsible for rational, logical thinking.”

Max realized that his constant doomscrolling wasn’t helping anyone.

“But then I asked myself ‘What good is this actually doing for me? I already vote, I already campaign and donate, I already advocate for solutions, and I already try to be part of the solution in my daily life.’ Doomscrolling wasn’t making me more engaged, it was making me more depressed, and being depressed, and scared, and stressed, only made it more difficult to address my problems and the problems of others.”

Max believes his new focus on action over attention has helped him exit the vicious cycle of doomscrolling. He used climate change as an example:

“Voting to protect the environment is good; having panic attacks because your desktop wallpaper is a live feed of the ice caps melting is not good. If you’re already voting, you don’t need to keep watching the video.”

Humans are incredibly complex beings, and it can be tough to grasp that the things we think are helping ourselves and others may sometimes be causing everyone more harm. But it seems Max has come to a healthy bottom line that anyone who uses social media can take to heart: We only have so much time, and we should spend more of it working on solving problems than indulgently wallowing in them.

Categories
News Trending Viral Worldwide

Simon Cowell ‘broke the rules’ for tear-jerking ‘Unity’ dance on Britain’s Got Talent

Simon Cowell may have made his U.S. debut as a hard-nosed grump on “American Idol,” but anyone familiar with him knows he’s a big ol’ softie inside. When a performance moves him, he’s not ashamed to say so, and when an act deserves accolades, he’s not afraid to go above and beyond to make sure they get their kudos.

Such was the case with the dance troupe Unity and their emotional performance to the Wrabel song, “The Village,” on “Britain’s Got Talent.” The group of 16 to 25-year-olds, wearing all black, began by standing together on stage as one of them explained who they were.

“We’re all friends in college, so we decided to put this group together to perform a piece called ‘I Will,’ which is about being told that you can’t or you’re not enough, and how as a group that we come together and power through that,” said the group’s spokesperson.

As the music cued up, a screen behind the dancers read, “In nature, a flock will attach any bird that is more colourful than the others because being different is seen as a threat…” Then Emma, a girl with Down Syndrome, began to speak about how people say she “can’t,” while the troupe spoke in sign language along with her.

Following Emma came Declan, who stretches gender boundaries. Then came Steph and Libby, who are in love, a boy who was bullied growing up for his love of dance and a young woman who has been underestimated due to her body shape. As each person shared their personal story, the lyrics of “The Village” highlighted their struggles to be accepted.

At the same time, the group’s dancing showed the support a group can give someone who feels excluded or ostracized. Ultimately, it was an incredibly moving performance with a beautiful message of inclusion: “It is not our differences that divide us, it is our inability to recognize, accept, embrace and celebrate those differences.”

The judges were unanimously impressed, and the audience chanted for them to give the group the Golden Buzzer, which would send them straight to the finals. However, the judges have a limited number of Golden Buzzers per season, and they had already used them all up.

Simon Cowell felt inspired enough by the performance to “break the rules,” however, and gave them a delightful surprise ending.

Watch what moved him, the other judges and the audience so much:

Empowering, inspiring and impactful. Congratulations, Unity, on making a memorable impression on us all.

Categories
News Trending Viral Worldwide

All The Best New R&B From This Week That You Need To Hear

Sometimes the best new R&B can be hard to find, but there are plenty of great rhythm-and-blues tunes to get into if you have the time to sift through the hundreds of newly released songs every week. So that R&B heads can focus on listening to what they really love in its true form, we’ll be offering a digest of the best new R&B songs that fans of the genre should hear every Friday.

Since the last update of this weekly R&B and Afrobeats column, we’ve received plenty of music and news from the genre’s artists.

NxWorries took another step closer to their upcoming project with “Daydreaming” and a tour announcement while H.E.R. made her return with the soaring “The Journey.” Halle Bailey stopped by American Idol to perform “Part Of Your World” from The Little Mermaid and Kiana Ledé announced her sophomore album Grudges. Elsewhere, Blxst will be curating the NBA 2K23 season 7 soundtrack, Jorja Smith announced her second album Falling or Flying, and we shared a new interview with Nigerian afrobeats singer Victony!

Here are some more releases on the new music front that you should check out:

Summer Walker — Clear 2: Soft Life

Almost two years removed from Still Over It, Summer Walker is back with her new EP, Clear 2: Soft Life. It’s a continuation of her 2019 Clear EP, a project that became a cult favorite in her discography. Now those fans, and Summer herself, can enjoy more of their favorite type of music from the singer.

Queen Naija — “Words Of Affirmation”

Nowadays, Queen Naija is focused on empowering herself in any and all the ways she can. That’s the focus of her new single “Words Of Affirmation.” With her sultry and silken vocals leading the way, Queen Naija seeks three things: “communication, affirmations, appreciation.”

Rory, Ari Lennox & James Fauntleroy — “My Phone Can Die”

On May 26, Rory will put on his producer hat for his first project I Thought It’d Be Different. The final single before that project’s release is “My Phone Can Die” with Ari Lennox and James Fauntleroy. It’s one of many R&B-focused records on the album, and the project as a whole is a mandatory listen.

Ama Lou — “Caught Me Running”

It’s been a long time coming but British singerAma Lou is finally gearing up to drop her debut album. That news comes with the release of her newest single “Caught Me Running.” The soulful record is Lou’s first in two years and captures her in an understated and confident state, qualities that can be expected to be at the forefront of her upcoming album.

Chxrry22 — “Worlds Away”

Toronto-raised and XO Records-signed singing Chxrry22 checks back in with her new single “Worlds Away.” The explosive record, which doubles as an honest diary entry, delivers nothing but heartfelt introspection. “I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for the last year and it’s been a rollercoaster of emotions,” she says about the song. “And of course, I really wanted to take those feelings and put them in a song.”

Maeta — “Through The Night” Feat. Lucky Daye & Free Nationals

First they’re spicy and then they’re sweet. That’s what LA singer Maeta is through her recent singles. The spicy “S(EX)” single is now accompanied by the sweet and tender “Through The Night” alongside Lucky Daye and Free Nationals. Both “S(EX)” and “Through The Night” are the initial singles from her upcoming project When I Hear Your Name which Maeta announced will arrive on June 9.

Joeboy — Body & Soul

Led by love, good vibes, and happiness, Joeboy returns with his second album Body & Soul. It presents 14 songs that capture the warm moments of life whether it be in the realm of love or the simple fun that a free life can offer. “The major idea behind the album is the idea of love,” Joeboy says about the album. “Self love, romantic love, love for family, love for life itself.”

Chase Shakur — “X’s N O’s”

Ahead of his upcoming Def Jam debut project, It’s Not You, It’s Me, singer Chase Shakur returns with “X’s N O’s.” The captivating single is the perfect backdrop for Shakur to show off his dynamic talents and smooth lyricism.

Leá The Leox — Purpose

Meet Léa The Leox, an R&B singer from Brockton, Massachusetts who just released her debut EP Purpose. The project’s six songs capture Leox’s sweet and serene artistry while detailing a journey of self-discovery that is impossible to not enjoy.

Amaka — “Leave It Behind”

Amaka, fka as Jess of VanJess, reunites with Kaytranada for “Leave It Behind,” her second single as a solo artist. The new track is perfect for the summer weather and it’s she says she wrote “about letting all your worries go and enjoying life.”

Jhonni Blaze — “Don’t Fall Out Of Love” Feat. Ne-Yo

After ending her 2022 year with “Spend It” featuring Boosie and “Reasons,” Jhonni Blaze checks back into 2023 with her latest effort, “Don’t Fall Out Of Love.” The record pairs her alongside Ne-Yo for a record that begs for a second third chance at love after their repeated mistakes in romance.

Some artists covered here are Warner Music artists. Uproxx is an independent subsidiary of Warner Music Group.

Categories
News Trending Viral Worldwide

Aqua’s ‘Barbie Girl’ Actually Will Be In The ‘Barbie’ Movie (Despite Reports Saying Otherwise) Via A Nicki Minaj And Ice Spice Remake

The hype for the Barbie movie is monumental. The roster of actors is star-studded with Margot Robbie, Ryan Gosling, Michael Cera, and even Dua Lipa. A new trailer arrived today as well as the announcement of a stacked soundtrack.

The project includes Ava Max, Charli XCX, Dominic Fike, Dua Lipa, Fifty Fifty, Gayle, Haim, Ice Spice, Kali, Karol G, Khalid, The Kid Laroi, Lizzo, Nicki Minaj, PinkPantheress, Ryan Gosling, and Tame Impala. All these acts together on one soundtrack is exciting enough, but there’s something that makes it even cooler: Nicki Minaj, Ice Spice, and Aqua are collaborating for a new version of the iconic song “Barbie Girl.” It’s not the first crossover between Minaj and Spice; they recently collaborated on “Princess Diana.”

A snippet of the song can be heard in a new trailer for the movie that was shared today, and it’s included on the album’s tracklist as seen on Apple Music. This follows reports that “Barbie Girl” wouldn’t be in the movie; Ulrich Møller-Jørgensen, manager of Aqua singer Lene Nystrøm, told Variety in 2022, “The song will not be used in the movie.”

A taste is coming soon; Dua Lipa’s track “Dance The Night” comes out tomorrow (May 26). In the teaser clip, the pop star revels in the glamor of Barbie, despite the fact that she recently revealed that she actually wasn’t very into Barbie dolls as a kid. She admitted in an interview that she was “much more the kind of girl that would go to the playground, make up dance routines and sing.”

Some artists covered here are Warner Music artists. Uproxx is an independent subsidiary of Warner Music Group.

Categories
News Trending Viral Worldwide

Kali’s Non-Stop Stream Of ‘Area Codes’ Remixes Continues With Mello Buckzz And The ‘773 Remix’

Kali‘s seemingly non-stop stream of “Area Codes” remixes continues. This time, she’s headed to the Windy City with breakout star Mello Buckzz for the “773 Remix” and she’s the perfect collaborator, spitting a flippant verse in which she asserts “he uppin’ paper to get a convo / You suck and f*ck for free.”

Kali’s latest remix on “Area Codes” arrives after the “850 Remix” tapped Tallahassee rising star Luh Tyler. While the original version of the single steadily creeps up on the Billboard Hot 100 (No. 33 as of this week’s list), Kali keeps pushing out remixes thanks to a built-in premise that allows for nearly infinite region-specific reworkings.

So far, she’s hit St. Louis with Sexxy Red for the “314 Remix,” the Bay Area for the “415 Remix with Lil Kayla, and New York City for the “718 Remix” with Kenzo B. Interestingly enough, the opening graphic for the latest remix features the 619 (San Diego, California), 971 (Portland, Oregon), and 305 (Miami, Florida) codes, which could be a hint for future remixes.

Meanwhile, Mello Buckzz is enjoying increasing buzz thanks to the assistance of her Atlantan compatriots Kali and Latto, who featured in Mello’s “Boom” video and brought viral attention with her cheetah-print twerking videos ahead of the video’s release.

Listen to the “773 Remix” of “Area Codes” above.

Kali is a Warner Music artist. Uproxx is an independent subsidiary of Warner Music Group.

Categories
News Trending Viral Worldwide

‘What would you tell your 13-year-old self?’ People’s answers were surprisingly interesting.

There are so many times we look back on our lives and think about things we would change or do slightly differently. But many people say they wouldn’t change anything because it would change who or where they are in their life now. The mystery around changing something that happened in the past is so woven into our psyches that there are entire sci-fi genres around time travel and what would happen if you altered the past.

While science fiction movies like “The Butterfly Effect” warn us against tampering with events of the past no matter how small, it doesn’t stop people from wondering. A user on Reddit decided to pose a question asking what three words you’d tell your 13-year-old self, and some of the answers were surprisingly heartbreaking. (At 13, you’d think most people would want to tell themselves something silly, like the user who wrote, “Pull my finger.”)


Leaving a message to yourself in three words is a tricky feat, and while some warned themselves about trying certain drugs or dating a certain person, others were deeper.

“I’m happy now,” one user wrote, elaborating that when they were 13, they had been suffering from depression and many other mental illnesses which led to self-hate. “If my 13-year-old self knew that it is possible for me to be happy and to enjoy my life, I could have avoided that dark period of my life. For everyone who is now fighting their mental problems: Don’t give up, it can get better!”

Another wrote, “Live life unapologetically,” explaining, “I used to contemplate about ending my life a lot around that age. All I ever wanted then were friends and love. So far, I’ve gotten one of those two things.” Things are looking up for this commenter, and later in her comment she said she’s proud of herself for moving forward in life.

Mental health was a continuous theme in the comments along with people who experienced the loss of a parent, but not everything was heart-wrenching.

Several people would tell their 13-year-old self, who likely wouldn’t listen, to buy Bitcoin or stocks in Apple. (Imagine going to your young teenage self and expecting them to listen to the adult version of themselves without them questioning how you got there in the first place. It would be impossible to get to the stock advice. You’d also have to explain what stocks and Bitcoin were in order for them to take you seriously. I’m exhausted just thinking about the scenario.)

But outside of confirmations of an improved future and insider trading tips, a surprising number of people shared that they would tell their younger self to take dental hygiene seriously.

“Brush your teeth. Biggest regret is not taking better care of my teeth when I was a kid,” one person wrote.

Sound advice that most teenagers could use, honestly. If only when taking those dreaded health classes they informed teens how dental health affects the health of your entire body. A lesson in how expensive dental procedures are would also be beneficial, if we’re being completely honest.

I’d tell my younger self, “Just keep writing.” What would you tell your 13-year-old self if given the chance?

Categories
News Trending Viral Worldwide

Oscar Winner Chloé Zhao Directed The Creepy Trailer For One Of 2023’s Most Anticipated Video Games, ‘Diablo IV’

It’s been 11 years since Diablo III, but the wait is almost over. Diablo IV comes out on June 6th, and as part of the launch, Blizzard Entertainment released a trailer for the role-playing video game directed by none other than Oscar-winning director Chloé Zhao (Nomadland, The Rider, Eternals).

“Saviors Wanted,” which you can watch above, takes place in the world of Sanctuary, “a realm that has been besieged by horrific monsters while the High Heavens and the Burning Hells wage destructive battles against each other.” It’s not a world I would want to live in. I’ll play a game set there, but there’s a few too many monsters to settle down, thank you very much.

“Working with Blizzard, we had the wonderful opportunity to bring the dark, thrilling and imaginative world of Diablo IV to life,” said Zhao. “Diablo fans are very passionate, and many have been with the game for over two decades. We want to do right by the fans, honor the game’s rich lores and visceral world building while evoking the strong emotions the players feel while immersing in the game.”

Diablo IV will be available on Windows PC, Xbox Series X/S, Xbox One, PlayStation 5, and PlayStation 4 at launch.

Categories
News Trending Viral Worldwide

Noel Gallagher Absolutely Obliterated ‘F*cking Slack-Jawed F*ckwit’ Matty Healy Over His Oasis Reunion Comments

Who really needs an Oasis reunion when Noel Gallagher’s catalog of eye-popping quotes is this deep?

At the beginning of this year, Gallagher and his brother, Liam Gallagher, gave a glimmer of hope to anyone still clinging to the possibility of a reunion. They’ve flip-flopped on it countless times. This month, Noel indicated it was all Liam’s fault that it hasn’t yet by telling talkSPORT’s White & Jordan that Liam “won’t call” him about it. Liam responded with various tweets, including a claim that “we should have never split up.”

Liam is usually Noel’s primary target, but it’s Matty Healy’s turn.

To start February, Healy visited Q With Tom Power, and The 1975 lead singer used the appearance to send a message to the Gallaghers:

“What are Oasis doing? Can you imagine being in potentially, right now, still the coolest band in the world and not doing it because you’re in a mard with your brother? I can deal with them dressing like they’re in their 20s and being in their 50s, but acting like they’re in their 20s — they need to grow up. They’re sat around in Little Venice and Little Highgate, crying because they’re in an argument with their brother. Grow up; headline Glastonbury. […]

“There is not one person going to a High Flying Birds gig, or a Liam Gallagher gig, that wouldn’t rather be at an Oasis gig. Do me a favor: Get back together; stop messing around. That’s my public service announcement for today.”

If Healy wasn’t already aware, he now knows that the Gallaghers have the market cornered on public barbs. An interview with Noel was published by Spin today, May 25, and it started with writer Daniel Kohn asking if Noel was aware of Healy’s comments.

“Oh, that f*cking slack-jawed f*ckwit. What did he say?” Noel said. After Kohn gave him the gist, Noel added, “He would never be able to imagine it. He needs to go over how sh*t his band is and split up.”

Swifties will likely be pleased with this development, as plenty of them have made their displeasure known over the ongoing Healy-Taylor Swift dating rumors.